Whether at the beach, the pool, amusement park or outdoor concert, when children misbehave, there is an audience. Summer outings can be a challenge for parents who must discipline children in public while others are watching.

"Parenting can be difficult anyway, but it is hard when you feel that others are judging you," said Angela Reinhart, University of Illinois Extension Family Life Educator.

At home, parents can set limits and discipline when needed, perhaps using a time-out chair to calm down an angry or frustrated child. In public, however, some parents may tend to become overly angry toward a misbehaving child or, to the other extreme, overly compliant, giving in to a child's demands.

Embarrassing situations sometimes cause parents to change their parenting standards in public. What would be a minor test of patience at home becomes a full-blown tantrum.

"Parents feel the pull between wanting to minimize the public disruption and solve the problem as quickly as possible, versus solving the problem in a way that is consistent with family rules, which may take longer," Reinhart said. "People want to be viewed as 'good parents', especially when a lot of people are watching."

Inconsistent discipline can actually encourage the children's behaviors that parents want to reduce. Giving threats and failing to follow through reinforces the idea that threats are meaningless and there will be no consequences for bad behavior. Likewise, if parents give in to their child's demands and tantrums, they are teaching that children can always have their way if they make enough noise.

"Successful parenting in public starts in the home," Reinhart said. "Parents can set basic rules about behavior that is–and is not–acceptable. Before leaving home, remind the kids about the rules. Set up the situation ahead of time so you'll stay calm and not end up yelling."

Also, know when your child may become tired or hungry and avoid outings during those times. Select the time of day when kids are most alert. Self-control is crucial for parenting in public. If the child misbehaves, stay calm and take him or her aside to talk about the behavior.

Resist the urge to name-call, Reinhart suggested. If a child's meltdown is beginning, leave the area and sit in the car or other quiet place to help the child calm down.

Some behaviors that are normal for young children may be bothersome for adults. In this case, pick your battles wisely. The behavior may seem annoying, but if it is not harmful, it may not be worth a battle. At the same time, though, parents should step in when children are being disruptive to others.

Finally, use a sense of humor when out in public with children who misbehave. "It may help to realize that with children, these things happen," Reinhart said.