"We're moving." This can be one of the most feared things a parent can say to a child. Mostly the fear comes from going from the known (where you currently live) - to the unknown (the new place). Moving changes many things for a family including: friends, schools, extracurricular activities, and churches, but moving doesn't have to be a traumatic event.

First, as with any time there is a change in store for your family, be sure to talk it out together. Make sure that everyone has the chance to be heard - and that no one's fears are pushed aside. Be sympathetic to your children's concerns and offer remedies when possible. For instance - is your child really sad because she won't be able to go to tumbling class anymore? Reassurance that there will be other opportunities at your new home - like tumbling class can help set fears at ease.

Communicate honestly with your children about why you are moving. Did you get a new job? Are you moving closer to family? Help them to see the big picture behind the move. If the move is necessary because of a divorce or death in the family, your children will most likely already be at a fragile emotional state. They may feel reluctant to share their feelings; however, because they realize that you, too, are upset. Share your own feelings openly with your children so that they know that their feelings of anger or sadness are not out of the ordinary. This will also let children know that it is okay to express their emotions.

Help your children check out their new home. If the new place is close by - take a driving tour. Show your children where they will live and go to school. If possible, have an actual tour of your new home. Often, landlords and realtors are happy to show families around. Children will probably be most interested in their own room. Help your children imagine some of the decorating and floor layout possibilities.

The new school is another important stop. Again, if possible, arrange for a guided tour of the school. While they may not remember everything they will need to know from this tour - it will help them to feel more at ease once they start in their new school. If possible, meet your child's teacher, as they will be an important part of a successful transition for your child.

If you are moving a greater distance, and cannot readily make a "tour", see if you can find out information about your new home community through the local Chamber of Commerce, Internet or your local library. If you already have family members or friends in the town you are moving to - ask them to take pictures or videos of the town and share these images with your children.

Leaving friends and family behind is often the most difficult part of moving. Encourage your children to collect the street and email addresses, and phone numbers of their friends. You may even want to help your child compile a scrapbook or memory box of photos and other souvenirs from your old home.

When the moving truck arrives at your new place, consider having your child's room be the first thing that gets set up. This will help them to feel more settled. They can help with the unpacking and decorating of their room, which will also give them something to do while the rest of the boxes are carried in.

Don't forget to allow your children the chance to keep in touch with "old" friends. Either through mail, phone calls or even visits - this contact can help bridge the distance between your new and old home.